This is probably the most sage piece of advice I can give you: this year, just worry about yourself.

Don’t worry about who’s doing what and how with whom and where. Don’t worry about how they paid for it, fit in it or where they keep it at night. Don’t worry about how they got it, why they got it or what it is. Don’t worry about who they’re with, if they deserve them or will they keep them.

Do not concern yourself with the realness, the fakeness, the morality or immorality, the wrong or the right anyone else’s life. Stop worrying about things that you don’t understand or don’t agree with, especially when they aren’t your business to begin with.

If we spend our time worrying about ourselves: what we’re doing and how we’re living and breathing and feeling and relating and parenting and loving and being good stewards and not smelling musty, brushing our teeth and cleaning behind our ears, I promise you we could all have super productive lives. But far too often, we ignore our own business to tend to other folks business. How you burn your own dinner minding someone else’s?

That’s all I have. That’s my new year’s message. Live the best life you can and worry about yourself.